Working Mom Diaries: Adjusting to Two

Our second son was born in mid-November, and we’re deep in the process of adjusting to life with two kids instead of just one. So far, it hasn’t been as difficult as I expected it to be, and there are a few reasons why that I’d like to pass on to other moms out there.

  1. Accept all of the help you can. I decided very early on to ask my mother to come and help us for as long as she could stay. With our first, we had a total of about ten days of help from anyone, and I felt like I needed more this time. My mom stayed with us for over two months, from around Halloween until January 2nd, and it was fantastic. If you can get this help from family or if you can afford to hire a night nanny, do it.
  2. Continue childcare. I got very anxious about germs and kept my older child home from daycare for a couple of weeks. Things were much easier once he went back, for him and for me. In retrospect, I shouldn’t have disrupted his routine just to quell my own anxieties.
  3. Lower your expectations (of yourself). Don’t expect too much of yourself too quickly. Plan on eating a lot of frozen Trader Joe’s meals. Set up a meal rotation so that you’re making the same 5-7 easy meals every week. Get takeout. Hire a service to clean your house, at least for a few months. Push non-crucial projects out a couple of months. Say no to events, visitors, and opportunities that make you feel stress or dread.
  4. Prioritize rest. This might be the hardest thing for me to do. It’s very tempting to spend time when you could be napping cleaning the house, working, cooking, exercising, etc. Try to let the messy living room go and sleep instead. Or, if you can’t sleep, just sit on the couch and veg out. You don’t always need to be accomplishing something; you’ve already got plenty going on.

This makes it sound so simple… and honestly, it is simple. There’s nothing complicated about having two children, at least not right now. But that doesn’t make it easy. It’s tough, and it’s time-consuming, and I’m more than glad that I can have a cocktail at 6pm again!

Stay tuned, because I’m planning on some more frequent updates in 2019.

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